Saturday, July 29, 2017

Good News: My Relationship With NPR, Through Car Stereos, Has Resumed, After An Awkward, Abrupt 13 Month Break

Article first published as My Relationship Listening to NPR In My Car Resumes With A Special Hour on Blogcritics.
This may be a coincidence but I am going to take it as a sign - something to do with the power of National Public Radio.
About one year ago my car stereo was stolen, shortly after I moved to Austin. My locked truck was parked at a library at the time. NPR had run a report that day saying that the frequency of people stealing car stereos had dropped.
As I told people of my car stereo being stolen the majority of them noted the coincidence of the timing, most bringing up the NPR report before I even alluded to it.. I was less amused. I penned and submitted this letter for NPR to broadcast, essentially informing the car stereo robber that a) since it was no longer trendy to steal car stereos and b) I would miss that and other reports - not to mention the hoped-for reading of my letter - because of this crime.
NPR did not run the letter and the car stereo was never found.
I later penned this piece chronicling the affect of not having a car stereo had in my life, namely a dramatic reduction in my consumption in music, signaling a change in my relationship with music.
Sure I still had occasional moments with NPR, often as I woke in the morning but these were short affairs, nothing like the long drives we used to take together. I talked, in my interview with Lisa Phillips regarding her book about NPR personalities, about some of my favorites there and the fact I have missed some of them during this year away.
Over the weekend I came into possession (legally, for the record) of a used car which had two things going for it. At the time, the one that excited me the most was the fact the vehicle had air conditioning. As other Austinites including Blogcritics' own Dave Nalle can attest, living in Austin without air conditioning is a bit like being a politician with a fear of public speaking: possible but difficult. It also has a car stereo, albeit with cassette tape technology, but I immediately tuned in NPR.
So, today was the first day I was driving home from work in this car, listening to NPR. It was thrilling, frankly, to hear not one but two separate authors I have interviewed speaking within less than an hour period.
First, roving NPR reporter John Burnett, who I interviewed here, did a plug for the local NPR station.
I also heard a tease for an interview with Brad Meltzer about his new book, Heroes for My Son. I have interviewed Brad for his last few books and had already planned to submit for publication, in the next 24 hours, my interview with him about this one. (That interview is now up here)
I ended up driving for longer than I had planned just so I could listen to this interview, partially out of the curiosity of hearing the voice of someone I have corresponded with only through email, and also to see if there was anything he would say that I had missed in our interview.
Interview on NPR over, I parked the car, turned off the car stereo and thought, well, I may not have the pulse of America as a writer but I sure do seem to have the pulse of NPR.
 

Dan Brown and Me: Our Dysfunctional Relationship Unveiled

(from 2007)

It could have been my big break and I missed it. But I'll get over it.
Back before I wrote book reviews and author interviews for Blogcritics and Newsvine, and even back before I created, edited and wrote for a book review page at a newspaper in Fayetteville, Arkansas, there was an Internet site about mysteries for which I wrote.
As is the case now I was sent unsolicited books to review. Only now the books I'm sent are usually ones I'd love to review, and authors I'm excited to interview, including upcoming releases from James Lee Burke and Mary Higgins Clark.
Back then I'd get books from authors I had never heard of, so desperate for press or Web attention that they'd send their books to a crazy book junkie like me. The fools!
One of those books I was sent had a cover that looked like something out of a Dungeons and Dragons game, and I pegged the author (yes, I judged the book by its cover, forgive me) as someone who played way too much of that game.
The author, I figured, was even more of a dork and geek than me.
So I set the book aside on the shelf and, when desperate for money, sold it via Amazon.
Years later the book The Da Vinci Code became a huge best-seller. I read it but loathed it. I found it predictable, trite, with characters written with less depth than a third-grader would compose. In short, I hated it.
But maybe I'm missing something, I figured. When I'd repeatedly run into people insisting I must read and love this book I thought, "What are they getting out of this that I'm not?"
Perhaps I was just annoyed that Brown implied his book contained more historical accuracies than it actually did and I'm always a bit peeved when authors blur the lines between fact and fiction, leaving the reader to sort out and/or guess which is which.
(This peeve later resurfaced, like a zit that just won't go away, when James Frey messed with readers heads - causing mine to nearly explode - about what was fact and what was fiction.)
Thus we now have millions of Americans who think they know details about the Vatican that are not actually accurate.
But it's just a novel, some say. Why do you care if it's true or not? The problem, as this Wikipedia link notes and this newsviner's rant serves as a good example, is the author implies much of his fiction about the Catholic church is fact and some readers take that as, no pun intended, gospel.
I decided to give Dan Brown another try and read the Angels and Demons book. As I was reading it there was something bothering me, and it wasn't just that the plots and characters were so similar that if they were not written by the same author I would have expected a lawsuit over stolen content ideas.
No, what was bothering me, I figured out, was that I had seen this book cover before. And that title sounded damn familiar.
Finally it occurred to me – this was the book I was sent unsolicited, the one I didn't read.
So what does it all mean? Am I crazy to think that if I'd written a review of the book I would have been the first to champion this author and went on to fame and fortune alongside him? Well, probably not, especially since my review would have been negative.
Still, each time I see Dan Brown's name I think, "Man, I could have been the first! I could have started this crazy trend."
And then I feel chills run through my body and think, "Whew! I'm sure glad I don't have that guilt on me," and then I feel better.
Now my story has been told. I feel slightly less dirty now.

Advice To Writers On Getting Started


(originally posted in 2007) 

I dedicate this piece to Firsty, whose pieces on this topic sparked me to consider writing down advice I've given to many new and experienced writers.
1. Write often. Write as much as you can, wherever you can, and whenever you can. I'll say more later about the "when" part — partially because it's one area Firsty and I differ on — but for now just do this for me: Say the words, "I write, therefore I am." Go ahead, I'll wait. Ok, good.
2. Don't seek perfection when first writing. There's a reason this experience of putting words together in a way that is meaningful is called writing. Notice it's not called editing, it's not called cutting and pasting, and it's definitely not called rewriting. There is a time and place for editing and, yes, rewriting what you wrote, but that time is later in the process.
3. Use writing exercises, like Writing Down the Bones. Why? I can give you three reasons off the top of my head: 1) Having someone else choose the topic will spark ideas you might have not previously contemplated. 2) Material you did not even know you had will come spilling from your brain through your fingers onto the page. 3) It forces you to turn off your inner editor.
That last one is key and is my next point.
4. Lose your inhibitions as much as possible. I write everywhere (following my rule #1). You name it, I've written on it. I've written on everything from napkins to newspapers to crossword puzzles to receipts. The only thing I don't think I've written on is a condom and that's because that spermicidal stuff is yucky to write on.
The point is I know I get weird looks from people who see me writing a 100 word summation for a story that came to me while I was having dinner at McDonalds, curious as to why I'm using paper placemats and brochures to write it down. I know those people think I'm a freak, but I don't care. I know I will get something interesting out of it and it's worth it.
If you become self-conscious about what people are thinking you as you write — or read what you wrote — that is a stumbling block you are putting in your own way. It's the same as saying, "Oh I don't want to write because I can't write as well as (fill in the name of author here)."
To quote Pink Floyd, "Tear down the wall!" Remove your inhibitions and you will find it easier to write. The more you write, the more good ideas will come to you.
5. Always be prepared to write. Yes, that sounds like Boy Scout advice, but in this case it works. Pen and paper – don't leave home without it. There will be times when you will have to get all MacGyver and find ways to write down thoughts without your own pen and paper (see #4).
6. Read good books. You will get mixed advice on this topic. I've interviewed writers who avoid reading authors, or at least authors of their genre, while writing in order to avoid getting mixed up with their voice or accidentally stealing a tone or something. On the other extreme are writers — or books for writers (that's #7) — that suggest you copy down pages or books of your favorite authors because simply by doing that you are noting their cadence and their style.
I come down in the middle. I think you can learn a lot from reading others. It was by reading Kurt Vonnegut that I picked up the habit, which might be jarring or annoying (is it?), of stopping mid-stream to talk to the author. Books like the Phantom Tollbooth showed me that it's good — hell, it's great — fun to play around with words and basic concepts.
Does that mean you sometimes steal pens you only meant to borrow while writing something down? Yes. Does that mean you will find at times you have eight pens? Yes. Is that okay? Yes. Is it okay when writing to switch styles from long paragraphs to short ones, from statements to questions? Yes.
Some people carry around voice recorders to deal with ideas that come to them when they are driving. I should do that, but more often than not, I should admit (I'll deny this in traffic court) I've jotted down writing-related thoughts while driving. Remember, Friends Don't Let Friends Write and Drive, but it's hard not to do so when driving alone.
Another alternative to writing while driving or using a tape recorder is to call your own voice mail and share the idea that way. Sure, it's a bit surreal later when you get home, especially if you're not alone or, worse, someone else checks the voice mail, to hear yourself talking to, well, yourself. Consider the alternative – you ignore or repress the idea and then it goes away.
7. Avoid the "Being a better writer" traps. It's very easy and tempting to get distracted or delay your writing because first you want to attend writing workshops, writing classes, and read books on writing. Avoid that temptation.
What's important right now is to get down on the paper what you are thinking, what you are feeling, why you bit your brother's ear off when you were eight, why you shot a man in Reno just to watch him die, or whatever you are writing about.
Between Firsty's pieces and mine, you have been told just about everything you could gain from attending those classes, workshops, and seminars, and not reading those books. See, I just saved you money. Now you owe me.
What reading about writing does is delay your writing. There will be a time later, after you have finished that novel or written that 300-page summary of your life story, to read books about how to improve your writing. When you reach that point, the book I endorse is Stephen King's On Writing. This is an ironic choice considering my criticisms of King, but King concisely and clearly makes all the important points. Yes, I'm aware this piece is a violation of my own suggestion in that you are, as you read this, reading about writing. I am teaching you by example.
8. Find your own writing habit. The key part of that sentence is "your own." One of the most annoying questions I see people ask, even more annoying and grating than asking someone how they are feeling after getting some piece of good or bad news, is people asking writers about their writing habits. Why does that annoy me?
First it enters into the territory of #7 in that the writer, and by extension the person's readers, are reading about someone else's writing habits, which most likely will help you about as much as when a smoker asks a former smoker how they quit the habit. That is to say it won't help. Everyone has their own habits and quirks.
The idea that we are all the same, that we can all write at the same time or in the same place or mood is the kind of stupid idea that makes authors of the books I reference at #7 much money, but helps the reader very little. This is, I note, one area where I differ with Firsty.
Yes, I too do some of my best writing at night. Heck, re-reading my piece last week, where I spoke in the voice of my pet beta fish, it appears I was on a controlled substance (Firsty's #1,) when I was not. Instead I was writing from midnight to 4 a.m. and there's something special about that time when you are waking up or falling asleep that results in more creative and wild thoughts. I think it's the subconscious sneaking a run play past inhibitions, but that's just a guess.
Here is where I differ from Firsty: I know many writers, some famous, some not, who do their best writing in the morning. Everyone is different and there is no one right time or place for everyone to write. For me, ideas for stories or even ideas on how to start or finish stories, be they factual or fiction, come when I least expect them, be it while driving (see #5), while sleeping (which is why I keep post-its near my bed), and in the shower.
The key is to find what works for you and then using that to your advantage. A friend told me she likes to write when she first wakes up before tackling life's problems and distractions and potentially forgetting what she was going to write about or what creative gift her subconscious developed while she was sleeping. I said, "Great, try that."
More important than the time or place you write is the self-discipline. I run into people all the time who tell me they don't have time to read books and don't understand how I find the time to read an average of 100 books a year. They note that they work 50 or 60 an hour weeks. I have to hold my tongue because I've been reading two books a week in recent months while working three jobs with over 100 hours a week.
So what's the trick? I gave up sleeping. No, wait, that's not it – it just seems like it. No, the trick is self-discipline. I always spend an hour each day reading. If I don't get that hour it's like missing a meal. My body and brain feel like something important has been missed.
It's the same way with writing. You have to give yourself time for writing. Ideally you set aside some time each day to write, but if that's not possible at least promise yourself that when an idea comes to you, you will stop what you are doing and write down the idea.
Personally, I'm a strong believer in journaling every day and writing memoir pieces. Much of the stuff I journal I can't share here because of privacy issues, but being in the habit of writing every day is like giving foreplay to the creative writing part of the brain, telling it not only is it okay to think creative thoughts, but encouraging it to come up with even more.
9. Experiment as you write. If usually you write in one voice, for example, then try writing in another voice. One reason I really liked the result of my beta fish piece was that I was speaking with a different, possibly physically impossible, voice. That freed me up to try new things.
A common complaint or problem from new writers is they are not sure how to get started. This is what leads them to the books I warned you about at #7. Instead of fretting about how to best start, just start writing. If you are going to write down your life story, for example, it's okay to start at the beginning of your life and work your way to the present. It is also okay to do the opposite. You can always change that later after you are done. The important thing is to write it all down now.
I used to marvel at the idea of writer's block because for almost 10 years I was writing at least 10 articles a week for newspapers on every topic you can possibly imagine - from sex ed to Amish art. If I only had one story, my editors scowled at me. If I had no stories I'd practically be shunned. When expected to write that often, you don't have time to wonder if you are blocked or why.
If you're stuck on how to start something, try a different way. Put even simpler, use my mantra: "When in doubt, rewrite." If you are writing and you are struggling for the perfect word to complete the sentence, then rewrite the sentence and move on.
Obviously, if experimenting is getting in the way of writing, then stop experimenting.
10. Minimize distractions. I recently seeded a column by a professor that makes an excellent point about how multi-tasking affects learning. The professor is prohibiting students from using laptops while taking his class because they are focusing on checking their emails and chatting while also, at least in theory, listening to him. The same goes for writing. Distractions will interfere, so the best solution is to do what you can to keep them to a minimum.
If you are trying to write down what it was like to have an ex-girlfriend's cat start licking your feet and the realization that this cat has now given you more physical affection than the girlfriend and then – beep – you get a text message, and, blink, you have new email messages, you're going to not only lose your place in that sad-but-true personal story, but also forget what you were planning to write next.
Sometimes, and I know this is a shocking idea to my fellow net addicts, you have to disconnect from the Internet. When I want to do some serious writing work, I unplug the cable modem.
Heck, lately I'm doing some of my best writing while on a weekend job where I couldn't have Internet access even if I wanted it. That sort of proves my point. The less distractions, the better the finished product.
This is not to say everything will be gold if you write without distractions. If you write like Dan Brown, maybe the only way your writing style may improve is with an excellent editor or a controlled substance.
For most of us, the more focused we are when writing the better the result. The fewer distractions, the lower the odds that we will make embarrassing typos like, say, referring to a person as the pubic works manager (which sounds like a cool job, but is not actually his title.)
11. Lastly, don't worry about length. Well, okay, it does matter later when you are confused about why you can't get a 3,000-page opus on how you slept with your twin brother and are not sure if that counts as incest or self-love, but you can worry about the book's length and legal issues later. For now the important concept — the refrain in this piece — is to get down your thoughts. Worry later about your audience and where you can get published.
I'd come back from government meetings sometimes and would be expected to write three or four stories in less than an hour. When I would tell non-reporters this, it sounded impossible. The solution has been known as vomiting or regurgitating what you just saw. It's an unpleasant way of saying something truthful; that it's faster to write down all of what happened on a particular topic than to try to make it all flowery with symbolism and beautiful prose.
Don't get me wrong – I don't want to see 300 articles in Newsvine, Blogcritics, or in newspapers tomorrow that are 99,999 words long. You do want to edit and cut once you have finished your first draft, but that editing and cutting is a whole different process and one best addressed separately. If there is interest, I can write something another day on that topic.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Dear Tour De France

Dear Tour De France: We've had a rocky relationship, you and me, but i've tried to stay true. You and the soccer World Cup - and parts of the Olympics - that's the only sports I watch.
.
We had some tough times. I took you less seriously when it seemed like everyone who was winning was cheating. That wasn't your fault and I know you said I was projecting my frustration with the cyclists which was unfair.

Things were improving the last few years and we never went to bed angry with each other.

But this year... this year I think you're just testing me now.
The tv broadcasts of your events are 5 hours each day!

Now I know some people who watch 5 hours of tv a day and so that wouldn't be a problem. I am not that person. I'm the guy who records 3 hours of tv a nite (well, 8 including you) and is lucky if he has time - or energy - to watch more than hour of something off dvr a nite.
I'm the guy who still hasnt finished watching the dvrd episodes of This Is Us, who remains always at least one week behind on watching the Daily Show, who has a netflix queue that is often within ten items of the maximum (most people probably dont even know there IS a maximum).
But I digress, which is easy to do when it takes 2 1/2 nights to watch one five hour program.
Tour, You want to know how bad it is? It's so bad that tonight I might finish watching Sunday's race. At this rate I will finish watching the Tour De France about a month after it actually ends

Please next year have realistic expectations. If not, I might have to give up on you and start watching more soccer.
Don't make me quit you!

Scott

Monday, July 17, 2017

My Interview With Bryan Alexander, Author of The New Digital Storytelling: Creating Narratives with New Media

Article first published as Interview: Bryan Alexander, Author of The New Digital Storytelling: Creating Narratives with New Media on Blogcritics.


Sometimes I write long introductions to interviews — today is not one of those days, due to factors ranging from heat and health to using someone else's computer because mine is also having health problems.
Suffice it to say Bryan Alexander is both an online colleague I have known and respected for several years and an interesting and intriguing thinker. Rather than plaster on more compliments I'll just cut to the chase, the interview.
Oh, and Howard Rheingold, a long-time friend and colleague, an amazing author and thinker in his own right, has a blurb praising the book — and if it's good enough for Howard, it's good enough for me. Howard is also thanked on the book's acknowledgement page, "for endless inspiration and guidance."
Let's start by defining terms here. What constitutes digital storytelling? Is a story read on Kindle, for example, digital storytelling or does it need more digital elements than that?
There are two senses in play these days. The one I rely on is simple and broad: telling a story using digital technology. Most of the book focuses on new digital platforms, or tools newly conceived of as storytelling venues to many readers: Web video, podcasts, blogging, wikis, Twitter, Facebook, augmented reality, mobile devices. I also include computer gaming as a major storytelling platform, which is a nearly a truism within that world, but a strange thought to many who don’t think of themselves as gamers.
A different, narrower sense is the one established by the Center for Digital Storytelling. That describes a specific curriculum for helping people who aren’t media geeks to produce short videos. The CDS approach is based on autobiographical, emotionally engaged stories, and the outcome is a roughly three minute long video. That video includes audio tracks (especially a voiceover), images, perhaps video and sound effects, and maybe video clips.
Why did you decide to write this book? How long from inception of the idea to completion? What were the hardest and easiest parts of planning it and writing?
Why: I wanted to explore the full range of digital storytelling at a very creative time. Once I started investigating the topic, the more I looked, the broader the field became.
How long: I first co-wrote an article on Web 2.0 storytelling in 2008 with my brilliant colleague Alan Levine, a/k/a Cogdog. That’s when I conceived the idea of a book-length treatment. I won a publisher contract in 2009 and wrote through fall 2010.
Hardest: Dealing with electrical power and internet outages during air travel and at home (we live in a remote mountaintop location).
Easiest: introducing and reflecting on creative stories, which is a delight.
I found the way you used social networks while composing and finishing this book fascinating and, as you said, totally appropriate to the subject. Can you talk about how you tweeted and crowd sourced about the book while writing it?
Several ways, and Twitter was a mainstay. During the drafting process I sought examples, and field-tested some concepts. During revisions I went through the entire book, chapter by chapter, tweeting the main issues and getting feedback. Since publication social media have provided good feedback about the overall idea, pointing me towards future work.
Before starting the book, I blogged about digital storytelling (at the NITLE blogs, and at Infocult), while recording resources through social bookmarking (initially Delicious, then shifting to Diigo and Pinboard).
Facebook has been useful as a general get-out-the-word tool since publication. I’ve also set up a “Page” for the book, where I’ve been doing my month+ blogging about digital stories.
Similarly, I found interesting that you would talk, and have class discussions, about topics that come up naturally with this book namely defining what is and isn't a story? Did that help to have ideas you can bounce off both people in class and, as with the prior questions, people online?
Defining “story” is a terrific exercise. Anyone can play, and most people feel intrigued by the prompt. Storytelling is pretty close to universal, everyone has opinions, and most of those ideas connect with thoughts about much of life: family, self, truth, morality, what it means to be human, politics. Defining what a story isn’t is more challenging, a kind of narrative photonegative, bringing out more and complementary issues.
Can you name and describe three of your favorite examples of digital storytelling?

“Momnotmom” is a great example of the CDS approach. A user-created, emotionally powerful exploration of a relationship.
“Farm to Food” is a Flickr remix of historical photos, leading to a very short, elegant, powerful trajectory.
Bioshock is a computer game which does several amazing things at the same time: an alternate history; Ayn Rand parody; scary horror; manic adventure. Or maybe Mass Effect 2, which a New Yorker writer called the most novelistic game out there: rich characterization, deep story.
Let me ask the devil's advocate question: not all digital storytelling is better than traditional storytelling just because it's digital, correct?
Correct. My book’s not making the case for comparative superiority. Instead, I wanted to show how many new avenues storytellers now have. In some cases a digital form is better than an analog one; in some cases, the reverse. It depends on how one strategizes through a classic mix: the story n one’s head, the intended audience, and available materials.
It’s also important to realize that digital tools are not only growing in number, but that many of them are becoming easier and more accessible.
Do you plan to write another book or are you going to take a break on that front for a while? Can you talk about your prior writing?
New book: yes, I’m exploring several projects right now. One would be a follow-up to this, exploring digital forms which appeared since 2010. Another is about education, looking at the revolution now sweeping through teaching and learning.
Let's talk audience — this book isn't just for those who consider themselves traditional writers but for larger segments of the populace, correct?
Yes, it’s for anyone who wants to share a story, which is just about every person. It’s also aimed at people who make digital content, but want to make it more compelling.
The part of the book I found most thrilling was the chapter about using digital storytelling to help in education. Can you talk a bit about how that will work and how much success it has had?

I’m glad to hear you say that! One correction: not “will work” but “is working.”
On the one hand, storytelling is an ancient teaching technique. Good teachers are good storytellers, often enough. The new digital environment – social media, gaming – offers additional ways for instructors to communicate their knowledge.
On the other, storytelling can empower students while boosting their learning. It’s a way for students to explore their voice and sense of self. It’s a way to reflect on and synthesize subject materials. Digital storytelling may be more accessible to younger students more immersed in a digital environment than their elders.
I'm not a gamer (I stick to puzzle games so the only one I decided to check out based on your book was the ChainFactor one), but to read your descriptions of some of the more in-depth ones was to realize I have a lot to learn as I'd not thought of them as digital storytelling. I admit this because I'm wondering if you think that's common, that non-gamers don't realize there's much more going on in those games than they may realize — that it's not just a giant time suck or addicting game (one reason I avoid them)
I hope ChainFactor didn’t eat your entire day.:) You are correct about nongamers not realizing that digital games do a lot of storytelling. It’s not intuitively obvious, nor broadly part of pop culture (so far). But a large and growing proportion of the human race experiences stories through computer games.
“Nongamers” is an interesting category. There are a lot of people who play games, but wouldn’t label themselves as gamers. They play casual games, primarily, but don’t see those are part of their identity.
Speaking of, what are the biggest misconceptions and stereotypes you found about this field as you did research on it?
That digital storytelling was for geeks and technologists. That the concept was oxymoronic, or simply bizarre.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

The Value Of Movement

In addition to big goals with my chrage i have smaller ones, ones that may not matter to anyone but me, but hey it does fit into social skills:
Dancing... ok, maybe thats asking too much.......
How about moving, ok...........
How about any acknowledgement, to music on the cd or stereo, with your body, be it moving, forming the words with your lips if not singing, anything!
The closest i';ve gotten is one time he tapped his fingers to the beat against his leg (away from me, thinking i couldn't see it) - it lasted maybe ten seconds.
He picked up thriller from the library and I told him, ok, it is ILLEGAL to listen to thriller without any kind of body movement at all!
Nothing. No movement during the title song.
I asked - maybe someone told him it wasnt cool to dance. He said, no, he just doesn't like to.
And as i've said if I dance or sing he looks at me like i'm a weirdo and then sometimes stops liking that artist.
So there we are, i'm trying hard not to move or sing along with "thriller" and "beat it" and he's reading the lyrics and in no way responding to the mad beats.
Finally, i see two fingers tap a beat. he looks at me to see if im looking I catch it and look away in time. He doesn't see me catch this sight and he doesn't see that I notice he smiled... just for a second.

And i smiled.
I'll take it as win.
One small tap for him, one big victory for social skills.

Friday, February 24, 2017

Communication Non-Verbally

Last week I wrote about having much communication with my Saturday night charge despite the fact he's non-verbal and quite low-functioning.
And we reached new heights of communication tonite.... including going out back for the first time!
Last Saturday he was able to indicate he wanted me to put on Thomas the Train and, in exchange, he was holding my computer mouse as a sort of hostage. But i
didn't know how to do that and he left the room as if to say, you fail.


Today he came over and rubbed my hand and stared into my face for about five minutes which i've learned is clear indication he wants something.
I put on Thomas the Train (having learned how to use the family's tv/dvd set up) and he was happy and he'd pinch my arm and fingers which I think means he's happy but it sort of hurts so i'd give him my sad face and say "ouch!" I Will talk later to the parents to see what that's about.
And so we watched Thomas together and I have to say, just once I want Thomas to be the bad guy or be defeated by evil doers just to keep the show interesting.
Then something new happened! He reached for my hand and started to walk toward the kitchen. I thought he was going to ask, in his own way, for help with
something in the kitchen but no, he pulled me further, still holding on to my hand and we found ourselves at the door to the backyard area.


He waited impatiently while i figured out how to unlock the back door and he went outside.
I should explain that THIS is a big deal. I've been coming every Saturday for more than one year and this is the first time we've been outside of the
house so i was like, wow, and he, who loves sensory delights, was living it up. He was enjoying the feel of the wind in his hair, the feel of grass on his
feet. I love working with folks on the autism spectrum for many reasons and the main one is how the brains work different but another is that they are quite
clear in their loves of sensory pleasures to the point where I think those of us not on the spectrum can learn something.

When's the last time you just did something purely for the sensory pleasure. Ok, besides bedroom stuff and chocolate?
Sometimes, and I think tonite was one of those times, he's the teacher and I'm the student.
Also, leaving the house felt like we'd just moved past a Groundhogs Day-sort of loop.
Next time: More outside and less Thomas please. But we'll see, i'm not the one in charge.